In a conflict I was mediating, one person saw only one solution, the other person saw another solution – both leading to different results. “You don’t see any other alternatives?” I asked. “If there was another possible solution, would you both consider working towards resolution?”
My way or the highway attitudes can poison people and teams. Holding on to “your way or idea” as the best answer or solution can be endangering.
Conflicts will occur on teams. Differing views, opinions, ideas and solutions to challenges are a part of diversity. There are 3 ways or attitudes to choose from.
1. My way.
2. Your way.
3. The “Win-Win” way.
The Win-Win alternative may very well be the other answer or solution. It may be the better way – maybe even better than my way.
- W – Welcome others ideas with an open heart.
- I - Initiate solutions beyond your preferences & likes.
- N - Never say never. In other words, don’t think and speak your mind about an idea being stupid or never working before hearing all the facts and giving thought and time.
Romans 14:19
Therefore let us pursue the things which make for peace and the things by which one may edify another.